Blackfoot, your theories/observations sound similar to the kind of advice I read once when I came across a Web site discussing techniques for picking up women. Of course, I can be interested in the "picking up women" part only from a pedagogic standpoint, as I'm not some sleazebucket who would go cheat on his wife. (Not that you ever suggested I was, mind! Just a statement to cover my own tuchus.) And I don't really have the "player" mindset anyhow.
Quote: you know about yourself, men, that we have no control over our attraction to women. put a naked shaking a$$ in front of us and we become mesmerized. We control what we do about it, can tear our eyes away from it even, but it is enjoyable, you dont have to think --I should like that.-- you just do. even if you wish you didnt LOL.
As it happens, I have observations along this line...I have seen performances of belly dancers up close a couple of times (in Middle-Eastern restaurants), and, both of those times, my reaction to the image of the dancer in front of me was to just..."pause" is the word I want to use, as "freeze" is a bit more violent than what I was feeling. I simply stopped moving, didn't say anything, even slowed down my breathing. And there I sat, until the dancer moved on. To this day, I couldn't tell you if I liked the performances or not. I gather this form of response is somewhat atypical. (Before you ask: No, I've never been to a strip club. And I have no real interest in going to one.)
Quote: Your wife loves you, and is there with you still, you dont have to compete with OM or try to win her back. You just have to learn what the attractive personality traits are, implement them in yourselfr. the ones that are not, this is actually even more important get rid of as much as possible. And then the ML will slowly take care of itself.
I'm not sure what you mean by this part. Are these "attractive personality traits" (as well as the unattractive ones) universal, or specific to the woman? And, if the latter, how do I go about finding which traits my wife finds attractive or unattractive? And implementing such sounds like no easy task, though I suppose that would have to depend on what the traits actually were.
It's a confusing business, it is.
- "A"
"Everything that happens, happens. Everything that, in happening, causes something else to happen, causes something else to happen. Everything that, in happening, causes itself to happen again, happens again."
