At Least We Have A Plan

[arjnex]

Well, Greeneyedlass, I don't plan on constantly asking her permission...but neither do I plan on trying to push things. I'm going to stick to the plan, respond in kind if she escalates beyond plan levels, but let her dictate that pace (without explicitly saying so).

I'm not going to press for premature escalation, but, if she makes a move in that direction, I'm going to cooperate.

I'm not going to press for longer encounter durations, but, if she feels like staying cuddled for 15 minutes instead of 5, I'll disregard the clock and stay with her.

I'm not going to press for higher encounter frequency, but, if she feels like doing the exercise two or three times a week instead of one, I'll gladly peel down and join her on the bed as many times as she's willing to grant.

Mostly, right now, I'm trying to figure out the brass tacks of how this should work, i.e., do we set up a preset day and time each week for the exercise? What happens if she's sick that day? I figure the venue for the exercise should be on the bed, under the covers; that'll become more necessary as we head into the winter months. Should we light candles, have soft music playing, or what? And should we do some discussion afterwards, to share our feelings about the exercise, once we've gotten up and put our clothes back on? At least some of these questions will have to be answered by my wife, and we're obviously going to have to have a sit-down beforehand to hammer this out. I was hoping that someone here might have seen the same show my wife did, so they might know if Sue Johansen went into more details than I presently have.

- "A"