I think I am becoming more confused reading some of the other topics. Alot of them actually do relate to my situation. I am a HD and my husband is LD. Once every month or less. I would try to initiate and just get rejected time and again. He has since told me recently that he has problems with bouts of impotency. So if he can't he can't. After 2 years he told me this. Meanwhile I am feeling this way. Why would a man not seek medical help about this? I am beginning to think that some of our other M issues revolve around the lack of intimacy. Maybe even his whole fantasy crap revolves around this too. I know that I am not thinking 100% clearly right now. It is hard to see something when you dead in the middle of it and I have a tendacy to over analize everthing in my life. I think about everything. When I talk to my male friends about some of this, they even tell me he is crazy. That they have the same problem but with their W. Is it possible that the lack of intimacy has caused the emotionally distancing behavior with my H these past 2 years? We had a very active sex life prior to bad leg injury he had about 3 years ago. After that it seemed to go down hill. He recovered just fine even though he was in a full leg cast for quite a while and had months of physical therapy. I even took a leave from work when this happened just to help him adjust to the cast. Am I just barking at the wrong trees right now. Like I said, I do tend to need to find the what behind the why.
Its not about getting what you want, its about wanting what you already have.
