I have already discussed this with my H and made sure he understood where I stand on the "making a fantasy a reality" situation. I am pretty sure that that the subject has been dropped. What I told him was I understood the fantasy and that I too have some pretty wicked ones myself. I on the other hand have no desire to act out my fantasies or his either that involve other people. They are left best to remain just that. I wish this was the only problem my H and I had. It would be easier for me to deal with. This situation only came up after we had started counseling. His MLC has been going on for more than a year. I realize that there is nothing I can say that will make him snap out of this trance that he is in. If he really wants to be alone and try to work this out himself, I guess maybe I should just let him leave and do that, then pray he will come to his senses. I want to save my marriage and work on that. I am not sure if he is capable of working on our marriage when he is having all of the MLC issues. You know the who am I, what am I, where am I, almost 40 blues. I want to say just get over it, even though I know he is struggling through that while I get to be taken along for the ride. I am not sure if I even know what normal is anymore. Maybe I should post in the MLC forum? Even though sex starved seemed appropriate for our situation, because I am, and the question I posted was about sex, I think my whole situation is more about his MLC and learning how the &*%$# to deal with this. Maybe the whole fantasy is part of that. I kept thinking about it last night and kept wondering if it was more about him wanting to have sex with another woman and if I would live out his fantasy it would be like saying it was okay for him too. I do believe that he has been faithful. But maybe he is looking for permission from me? If I do it, then he could too? I don't know I am just grasping at straws here. Any ideas?
Its not about getting what you want, its about wanting what you already have.
