I know this is scary right now, and I know you are trying to prevent things that will end your M. BUT as others on here have said...you must set boundaries and consequences. If it comes to separation, remember that's not the end of the world, and it doesn't have to be the end of your M either. Sometimes it takes drastic measures such as that to wake people up. Be strong, you will get through this, you will be a stronger woman for it all too.
But draw your boundaries and stick to them...don't let him steamroll over you.
