Quote: He still insists that for him that this is something that would be very exciting. I still do not know what to think.
If you want to "BE" divorced, do it for him. I am sure it wil eventually lead to that.
Quote: Not that that is unusual these days.
The fantasy (a man kaving sex with his wife) is not that common, maybe 1 guy with 2 gals is for men.
I have the solution rollercoaster. D your H, find a good guy, one that is not sick like your H, marry the new guy and have sex with him, e-mail your XH and tell him how much fun sex is with your new H and say thanks for the idea.