You said it TAGIII jak466 your divorced, sign up for match.com or eharmony. start dating, single, available women. If your x wants to work on something down the road deal with it then.
Ditto to HP Then you start looking for things that will work in your situation--for the both of you. Your marriage has some issues, and your H is not acting stable. His solution would test even the most stable, issue free marriage, being done for the first time.
Then there is your reaction to it. Compromise is necessary, vital to a R and the lengths that a person will go to, to reciprocate when they are being cared for are tremendous... your idea of lights, and mirror showed that you were putting in effort.
Dont ignore your reaction, if that is the ONLY way he can/will stay with you.... let him TRY to go find a swingin girl who will put up with demands and ultimatums....lol.
