Coming upon the stressful holidays and hoping we can maintain w/o fighting. We are struggling financially right now (we have $$ in savings if we get in a bind but we of course don't want to use it) I am only subbing and work is very slow for him right now and it is getting kind of tight. Soooo...add that stress to the normal stresses this time of year and it could get ugly. I am aware of it so hopefully I will be able to control it.
We did have a pretty good Thanksgiving, we had dinner at our house and than went camping on Friday and had a blast. Although I apparently embarrassed and humiliated H...I didn't mean to of course and personally think he is being to sensitive. Here's what happened: H always goes to bed/falls asleep early (8:30-9) and for whatever reason somebody made a bet who would go to bed first, me or H. I kept making comments about it being past his bedtime and there was no way he was going to win and he's always in bed early. I really didn't think much about it, it was all in fun (or I thought). Well tonight he tells me that I always have to emabarrass him and that I kept beating it into the ground and that's personal. I probably didn't do a very good job validating him (ok so I thought he was being ridiculous and was caught off guard) but I did apologize and tell him that I didn't mean to embarrass and humiliate him, but now he is being a jerk and basically won't accept my apology. So, I'm a little tweaked...especially since this happened Friday night and he didn't really say anything to me until tonight...although now that I think about it he did make a couple of comments Saturday that he had to go to be because he couldn't take my badgering anymore. OK, so I do feel bad but at the same time he needs to get over it....
I also had a long talk w/my BIL on Saturday (H's sister's husband) which kind of stirred up some ugly feelings...apparently he at one point thought that my H might have had a girlfriend. This was before he moved out but I guess H had made a comment or two to him that he thought were odd. He said that he doesn't know, and his gut says that he didn't but it did get my mind thinking again and of course have still not heard a "real" I love you. My BIL is a really good guy and he has some struggles with SIL...it was interesting to see how much a brother and sister can be so much alike even after years of living apart!
Anyway, off to bed. I will try one more time to apologize to H tomorrow but he better stop being such a jerk about it!
