Hey, Unsure...I finally caught up with you. Things have been pretty hectic in my life and I am now an X. I did what I said I would do; however, because I believe it to be true. Because of the law it doesn't matter..only one person has to want a divorce and it is granted. When the judge asked me if I felt the marriage was irreconciliable, I responded for the record, "No, your honor. I do not feel our marriage is irreconciliable. However, our law states if one person wants a divorce the other must acquiesce. I acquiesce." Then he asked XH and he said, yes he thought the marriage was irreconciliable....divorce granted!
I'm not sure what it was with XH but he often thought any differing opinion I might have meant I was being negative or just saying it to be adversary. That was not the case but he often told me, "You can't possibly think that." Or, "You can't possibly feel that way." I'm not sure why not...but I suppose if I had the option of trying to reconcile the relationship there would probably be times it just wouldn't be worth the debate....although I do love a good debate. Sometimes, I do form an opinion based just on being the devil's advocate and taking the other side but I think someone can easily tell when I'm arguing in jest.
I guess it goes back to ... pick our battles. Does this happen all the time? Or, is it just when he feels very strongly about something? Are you feelings about it strong enough that you want to pursue that you do indeed feel the way you feel?
Those questions may not help you find an answer at all but ... I hope they give you food for thought.
