So why when I decide to set some new goals H does something (as trivial as it probably is to him) that really makes me question our R?? I have yet to get an ILY or any affection (I should qualify that to PT that I consider affection--hugs, kisses-I get smacks on the but and my breasts grabbed on occasion). He is very affectionate with our daughters and always makes sure to give them hugs and kisses before he leaves or bed but I get nothing. As a matter of fact I was getting more spooning and such a few months ago than I am now. I am very frustrated about that part of our R and I'm not quite sure how to address it.
Today, he came home for lunch and as he was leaving D3 and I were on the computer downloading music. The computer is right by the door and he came by and said give me a kiss. Now, I knew he was talking to D3 but I made kissing noises and lips and looked up at him and than when he kissed D3 made the comment, "oh, I thought you meant me!" to which he replied "never." Now he was smiling...but...I asked him why that was and he just said because (still smiling) and walked out the door.
I know to him it probably isn't that big of a deal...but on the other hand he knows (based on previous conversations) that I like kisses and hugs and such. Does he just not care or is he still "getting even" for the years when our sex life sucked. I am stumped...I am trying hard not to dwell on it but it is getting really old. I know he can be affectionate and gentlemanlike...I see it with our daughters, I see him open the door for his mother. Don't get me wrong, I don't want him to stop doing these things for them, I think it's great...but why I am so much less important?
