Glad to see you. One of the last things I posted to you was that communication seems to be a key. Can't believe it has been almost a year -- I've been reading a new book called Marriage Fitness by Mort Fortel, Fertel?, anyway, it has some very interesting ideas. The philosophy is much like DR, just presented in a different and, for me, a more understandable way that it is not communication, or role playing, but choosing to create love in the relationship and other things fall into place. Not a tough read...I went through half of it in about 2 hours...almost, common sense. You might find it interesting as I immediately noted the reference to the "surface" relationship and thought about how it fits with what he is talking about. Pretty similar to the "as if" but just presented from a different angle.
Can't say I'll probably have a chance to use the new found whack up side the head. Settlement negotiations are ongoing and we will probably have a settlement conference this month.
