Tips for First Counseling Session

[keepmypower]

Thanks GEL -

Always appreciate any advice.

I'm very nervous. I bet my wife could write my top 5 needs down in 19 seconds - she knows them. She's just not sure if she's willing to put in the effort.

I told her last week I'm sick of the gray zone, either be in this thing, or get out. We went from having a difficult summer that brought us closer and allowed us to solve problems, to her saying we're a million miles apart.

I said I'm sick of all this crap all the time. No marriage is perfect, no 2 people will have same views, but those marriages that thrive are where problems are resolved and each is respected. We already have that - but I think she holds every resentment against me just to prevent her from having to be intimate - which is a fear she's had her whole life.

I want this counselor to hear both sides and be the ref.

Either she needs to change, I need to change, or we need to quit. I'm just ready to break out of this 10 year stalemate.