I didn't review your whole sitch, but here's a few words of input regardless:
Be careful of mirroring XH's attempt at filling the hole in his self with an OP. It doesn't work - not longterm. He'll still be facing the selfwork that he's avoiding now - only months, years later.
Be very serious about your GAL efforts. IMHO, Post-D DBing requires true dropping of the rope, letting go, and getting on w/one's life. Literally, oozing confidence and happiness whenever the WAS is around. But this is possible only by working on improving EVERY facet of oneself everyday.
For physical changes, I visualize myself as reshaping my body/improving my fitness for s/t big, like the Olympics or a major run. Make it sustainable and longterm, not unrealistic, and it will be more likely to stick as a healthier lifestyle. My diet has become so much healthier now that I can choose for myself what to eat and how much to eat.
For psychological/emotional change, I'm challenging myself to grow with new experiences - saying yes to convos with women, trying things like new forms of massage, taking part in individual counseling - all to end up with a better me.
To address spirituality, reading a lot, praying in different, more personal ways to enrich my R with my God. After all, He's the only one who hasn't ever let me down. This definitely has added to my PMA. No matter how XW is behaving, that R is always solid.
What are some goals that you can set up for yourself for this Fall to help you grow in a notable, positive way this year?
