THANK YOU so very much for visiting my thread and offering words of encouragement and advice. I've visited your threads and from what I read on each one, it sounds like you guys have been here quite awhile. One thing I've noticed from going through other threads in this room is that alot of you HAVE been here awhile.
I feel like such an infant. My D has been final less than 3 months (6-27-o5) but it was final 16 months after BOMB (2-8-04) was dropped and we lived together for 3 months after BOMB before he moved out(4-19-04). In case I lost you with that last sentance, it has been a total of 19 months since BOMB, but I did not find this site until just a few weeks before D was final. In the 16 mo. since BOMB I did all the DON'Ts. I was such an expert at them that even I was disgusted with me.
To make a long story short, my DBng is in the infancy stage. The first 3 weeks after D we had little or no contact at all except for pik up/drop off kids (there were several times when we didn't even make eye contact). In the last 3-4 weeks I have stepped up my DBng and my PMA and I think it seems to be working. Our interactions in last several weeks have been very positive. Just this past weekend (his w/e with kids) he took them camping to his family land in Wisc. and had kids call me to tell me "good nite" both fri. & sat. (he got trac phone, the prepaid kind) two weeks ago, but did not have kids call me to tell me GN that w/e. I've had several convos with MIL in past couple of weeks, she hasn't come out and said that there is a possibility for us to get back together, but she isn't dicouraging me from trying to reach my goal. TO HAVE MY HUSBAND AND KIDS WITH ME UNDER THE SAME ROOF AGAIN.
She has told me the same things that I have gotten from you guys here, "Time and PATIENCE". are my allies. I'm with you Wes on the patience and pursuit front. "Instant gratification, isn't fast enough."
Gotta go to work now, I'll stop in on you guys' threads and other ASAP.
