My W was showing me some documents she got recently to share with clients who are talking about divorce, but who are also trying to save the marriage. One document contained some links to websites that were particularly helpful in this regard. And yes, one of those websites is divorcebusting.com.
I've always wondered about what might happen if she discovered this website, and determined that I was Hairdog. She would be pretty pissed. I don't know if she would come on here and try to defend herself, or clear up things she thought I had portrayed unfairly, or what, but I know a couple of things for sure. She would be astounded that I have posted over 2500 messages in the last two years. She would have years of ammunition for almost any argument.
Oh, and one other thing: she would never be able to see the humor in a threesome between Lil, Christy and me involving Wesson Oil.
My H sees me on here "reading" but I never post in front of him. He could certainly figure it out if he took the time but I don't think he'd put that much effort in If my S knew I was posting on here what would be the point. I couldn't really express myself openly. Hairdog, I can't believe over 2500 posts with no awareness by your W. That's quite a "secret life" you have
It's always possible she's already been here if she showed you that document with the website on it.
However, if she has been here...she should already be aware that we are here working on FIXING M's and PREVENTING D's. All she would have to do is peruse just a few of the posts on here for that to become completely obvious.
Chrissy: She was showing me this stuff because she shares a lot of things about her job. I find most of it very interesting--a lot more interesting than my run-of-the-mill work day. She had me review various books about child custody recently because she was deciding which one(s) she would recommend to various clients. This is one of those things she does which shows me that she appreciates my opinions.
There was no clandestine reason she was showing me the documents. I just thought it was interesting that db.com was one of the websites. Heck, a reference to db.com is sitting no less than 10 feet from her every night in bed, as a copy of SSM is located in the bookshelf in our bedroom. If she's going to find it, it's there.
Heck, it would be pretty easy to find me here. One of the websites I buy my coffee beans from uses my nickname on its mailing labels, so she could google that, I'm sure. Hairdog shows up on the second page of google results, referring to this board.
This is my group therapy. If she finds it, fine. But she won't get me to stop posting.
There was no clandestine reason she was showing me the documents
Very good. Was just worried she was trying to use it as a unspoken threat. The timing is what made me wonder. She calls and says you need to talk and then next thing she is showing you things she uses durring clients divorce proceedings.
And why would she not want your imput you are a pretty smart fella from what I see here.
Just curious if you find your job boring and find hers of interest and you are both lawyers why not change fields of practice?
Hope you have a good night!
My H knows I post here and so far it has not become to problematic.
And she may find more humor in the threesome then the breast episode. Which to this day I think of and fall out laughing
