However, it is very important to her, so I apologized for spending $15 over the food budget.

failed test.

She had just written a check for my health club membership: $170 annually. I took the check out of my wallet and tore it up. "Here, now we have $170 more

acted out of resentment and anger, failed test.

But there was no reasoning to be done last night. She took away my glass of wine because she said she had bought the wine with her money.

It seems reasoning has not been working, repeatedly.
cheesless tunnel. IMO the recipt was a passive aggressive move anyways.

I am in love with Mrs. Nop. Can I say that? Maybe that translates into me being in love with NOP. Does that make me gay?
sigh I am going to have to spell this one out..... I am Joking. She gives great advice though.

Corri,
You have, in a very big way, created this monster to whom you are married. In an effort to placate and keep the peace, you have given away your power in order to try to control the relationship on an emotional level

BAM BAM BAM on the money. easier to post that then to actually say the same thing in my reply.

No power, = no respect, = no attraction, = no nookie.

Ditto HP advice, get in her FACE, and stop the convo. She cant or wont control her thoughts do it for her. No, forget that. Do it for yourself.

LIL it is conceivable to just be friends, and to make it a choice not to do something, but people who are that self aware, and able to actually control themselves once a number of love units have been deposited and tipped the jar over so to speak are a ANOMOLY. and if they are that self aware, why play with fire, and cause yourself the conflict that comes with it.

People that juggle fire get burned, people who dont want to get burned dont juggle fire.

I also disagree with not being able to break up a marriage, all marriages have flaws, weaknesses and there do exist Black widows(male and female), so to speak that make this objective there endeavor, and are quite succesful. Alls it takes is the right moment, too much alcohol, or drugs, some music, or just a selfish feeling of Ill only do it this once, noone will know,.....etc.

We are all programmed to 'cheat', marriage is the struggle against it, not vise versa.