For once I totally disagree with you. Some times you have to fight fire with fire. She needs to take responsibility and own up to her end of this relationship. She can hide between shallow meaning word wars as long as they are not challenged. Challenge them and her cloak of rightoues exterior/mindset may come tumbling down. And she may have to say what she already knows HD is not at fault for every glitch in her life. She has a hand in it also. When she is handing out her judgement and verdict of outcome and HD excepts it as such. The words she uses not only effect HD but her own belief that they are true. Allowing this to continue is helping who? Neither one of them IMO.
I think this lady if not only selfish but cruel. Why should she be allowed to keep throwing his support of his children from his first marriage in his face as if it is a sin he has committed against her. Those kids are his she should take pride in the fact he is not a slacker that he takes care of his responsibilitys in life. This should make her feel safe in the knowledge he will never abandon his children she has with him. And lets face it using something someone loves against them like it is a bad thing is just mean. Point blank she came into this marriage knowing he had children and responsibilities to others.
Letting her continue to say you make less then me so I deserve this and you deserve that is crap. What he contributes to the household on a domestic level added in would probably make him surpass her and level out the inbalance between there fiscal income if she would factor this in to the eqaution. But for her to recognize this is not self serving enough for her IMO.
Well lost my whole train of though since MIL called and yacked on for 25 minutes so I will end here.
