Firstly, where is your discretionary spending? You work hard for your salary and only SHE gets to spend on fun things (wine, namely)?
Secondly, GET IN HER FACE.
Let her know that there is a HairLion in there somewhere and the days of her running the show and you're some shtick-y sidekick are GONE.
As you know, I have some MrsHD tendencies myself and nothing stops me in my tracks quicker and more effectively than when MrH gets in my face. I mean, I back down right away and instantly (inwardly, mind) start questioning my stance and whether I've gone too far.
