Quote: I do still think it's playing with fire to discuss your M difficulties with a friend of the opposite sex
I agree it's playing with fire, but here, let me hand you this match and this can of gasoline. I don't see any diff between sharing with a friend and posting here. Anyway, what you have been doing, namely placating your W, has not been working. You do the chores, you go to therapy, you invited her into the candlelit hot tub-- I think your new policy of transparency is refreshing, bold, inspiring, and she needs to have her apple cart tipped over. You've catered, kowtowed, and quaked before her for too damm long, and besides, where has it gotten you? Time to step waaaay outside the comfort zone... but you know what? I predict YOU will be MORE comfortable out there.
BTW, I totally agree that men and women can be friends without sexuality becoming a problem or an issue.
