HD- BRAVO! for the way you handled everything! BRAVISSIMO in fact!
Your W reminds me of my late husband's first wife (except that she was a SAHW). Financial security was everything to her. She was also a One and could do no wrong.
Regarding this comment of your W's:
Quote: Yes, she really said that. She put it totally in a financial context.
When my late H left her, she never once asked him to stay. The closest she came was to send him a card that said she was thinking about how they used to sit on the patio on Sundays and read the paper and "the patio misses you." Yup. The PATIO misses you-- not I miss you.
For the record, she never forgave him for the D, never got over it, never spoke to him again-- and he lived 12 more years. At their son's wedding a couple of years after the D, she did not exchange one word with him or even make eye contact with him once during the entire weekend (it was out of town). She didn't come to his funeral. Your W sounds like that kind of Never Wrong Grudge Holder (cf her sitch with her dad).
But YOU, my man, are a ROCK. Congrats on decision to be totally transparent. Let the sh!t fly-- you won't be generating any of it, she will, but none of it will stick to you!
