HD,
In what ways does she contribute to the marriage?
Is her fixation on financial matters because that is, at this point, her only contribution?
Edited to add:
I just realized that this is probably not her ONLY contribution but it is..within the marriage...the only thing that SHE rocks at and Hairy sucks at. So she's gotta keep bringing it up to equalize things. To make him see that she's not completely 'broken', after all she's the financial whiz and he's the spendthrift screwup.
So it's not that she really believes that he should be borrowing money from her; it's that this is her way of balancing things out. When he brings it to the surface that she's a sucky wife (You'd rather clean up dog crap than relax with me and some wine) she brings out both guns, blazin, by toting out her financial capabilities.
I used to do this stuff too. Find something, anything, I was good at and hammer him with it.
Needless to say I do NOT do this anymore and not because I have no salary with which I can lend to my own husband who owns half of it, anyway.
