I'm trying to remember back about a year. Didn't you move to her job? You have given her everything she wanted and how have you been satisfied? Seems to me you're where my H and I are. He has stepped up to more of the household maintenance, physically vs taking a nap from 1p-6p which in my way of thinking was totally unacceptable. Yet the 5LL's play such a part in my life. I need touch and have bot silky and chinelle(sp) sweaters to have "feelings". I no longer look to him for happiness and can find calm in co-hab now. I no longer expect anything as "normal". I am enjoying the planting and such. It's far from ML and its feelings.

I too have a "things" addiction to a point. When M D23 didnot want certain family heirlooms I was cherrishing for her and the realization of the storms and the distruction hit, I would have gladly been warmed by hugs and such, that will never happen inside this house. The cat is less selfish, ofcourse, it normally shows affection before feeding.

Pity me that the heart is slow to learn What the swift mind beholds at every turn. Edna St. Vincent Millay