Your W is goooooooooooood. Gotta give her credit. She comes back with some zingers and really knows how to deflect. Love this one: She said that she was happy with me, and that, although feeling safe was a pre-requisite for ML with me, it was not a prerequisite for her loving me, being happy, and staying in the relationship. She said that she wished I would just accept her the way she was, and be happy. Then, she said, maybe we would all relax enough to ML.
Total BS Hairdog and you shouldn't fall for it. Interesting story about her father though. She may be seeking unconditional love but you are not a DOG. You are a MAN who deserves to have his needs met just as much as she does. Your needs are at odds with each other obviously so at this point you are doing THE MEXICAN STANDOFF (told you guys I loved that phrase). Who is going to cave first? From what I know about her through you, she will NOT be changing anytime soon. What is all this about "safety"? Why does she not feel safe with you? Seems like that would be a basic need in any M, no? And yet, she is happy, content, likes things the way they are. Huh? I guess I understand her point of view because right now she is getting her way. You are starting to really rock the boat and disrupt her "happy to live in mediocrity" land. Too bad. Good for you for telling her the honest, brutal truth from now on. I think that is absolutely necessary to have true intimacy with your S. Hope you stick with it. STAY STRONG!
