Happenings this weekend: I suggested going out to celebrate with her and all the kids. She rolled her eyes, said it was going to be too expensive. So I suggested that we celebrate with just her and I and DD4. Still, expensive. "We've gone over our food budget for the month. The raise you got is nice, but it's not that much. We can't start living like we're rich. But, if you want to, I suppose that's fine."
Talk about sucking all the joy out of something.
I decided to nix the dinner, and instead, to celebrate with something that cost nothing. I told her to forget about the dinner. Instead, while she was putting DD4 to bed, I filled up our jacuzzi tub, put about a dozen candles around it, and got in.
I heard her come in the bedroom. "Did you know that there is some dog crap out here? What are you doing?" H: Just relaxing. Want to join me? W: I'm going to clean this up.
(Granted, I had rented a carpet cleaner this weekend and cleaned all the carpets in the house, at her request. I had worked about seven hours Saturday, and three hours Sunday, cleaning carpets. So, fine, clean up the crap.)
After about 15 minutes of crap clean-up, during which my DD4 came in, looked around and asked me why I was in HER tub, W came up.
W: You know, I had my bath earlier today.
Yes, she had. She had taken a bath with DD4. But was I wanting her to take a bath for practical reasons? No. And, understand, I didn't particularly expect anything out of this. I thought it would just be nice to take a bath together in this huge tub which is in our master bath. We've never done this before with just the two of us.
She patted me on the head.
W: I think I'm just going to sit downstairs. H: That's fine.
I stayed up there about 30 minutes by myself. I then came downstairs, and hung out at the PC, while she was in the other room, watching TV. By the way, she had spent the whole day copying her CDs to iTunes.
She certainly shows the ability to make time for things that are important to her: iPod-related stuff, cleaning up dog crap, watching TV.
Meanwhile, I'm trying really hard to do all the things that were on her "list" that she gave the MC. In fact, that is why I gave up my celebration dinner out: She had asked that I "stay within budget." I know, it's stupid, but some sort of "fairness" elf told me that giving up that dinner and putting some effort into being "romantic" might result in at least some nominal physical contact. I am being totally honest when I tell you that I did not expect sex/ML out of all of this. I would have been happy if she had just joined me and we had talked.
But I invited her once. I'm not going to belabor the point. It was, shall we say, farking obvious that I wanted her to join me. Yeah, I always light candles, get two glasses of wine, and slip into the tub for a bit of solitude. You should have seen it, ladies. Not only would you have been proud of me for putting forth the extra effort to be "romantic," you probably couldn't have helped yourselves, it was so pretty.
