One of my W's clients gave her a gift last week. It was an Ipod Mini, with a bag of accessories. Sunday, she was playing with/cursing at it. I started to help her with it, but she got mad at it, and got mad towards me. I told her that I was going to be in the kitchen with DD4, and that I hoped she would be able to figure things out. Several times, she would yell out a question, but I just ignored her. One time, DD4 was looking at her as W was yelling at the computer. DD4 looked at me and asked me to go outside with her, which I did. Once outside, she said, "Mommy's really grumpy today, isn't she?" I said yes and said that sometimes people get that way when they are frustrated with "things" like computers. I could tell that she didn't want to go back inside, so we played outside for a while. By the time we went back inside, W had figured out whatever the problem was and was all bouyant and happy. It's like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
Yesterday, she was talking about different music download sites, and podcasts, and how she'd called a cousin who knew a lot about music and computers. Last night, she was cursing at the computer again, saying it couldn't "find" her iPod. I suggested she get down on the floor and blow into the USB port because maybe it was dusty. She told me that she doubted that was the problem. She did it anyway. Two minutes later I hear her exclaim, "Whoooeee! It found it finally!"
This morning I woke up at the usual time, 5:00, did my usual stuff, and, at about 5:20 I heard the bathroom doors open, said "hi" to the dogs poking their heads into the shower, and, when I got out of the shower, I saw that the bathroom door was still open. (note: I close the door to keep the light from waking up W). I look, and no one is in bed. Hmm. I look downstairs and see that the light in the study is on.
After dressing, I walk downstairs and look in the study. She's there, with some music download site up on the screen on the computer. I walk over and ask what she's doing. She starts to tell me that she's sending her secretary a note about something, and I see that she's switched applications and is on her email.
H: Oh, I thought you were on a music site. W: I was looking at one, but I was working, too. H: So, do you like your new iPod? W: (aggravated) I don't want to talk about it right now. It's really frustrating. It's too sensitive.
I walked away to get ready to go to work and I heard her say something to me about whether I knew who sang some song....
I didn't respond. She said she didn't want to talk about it. I don't either. About five minutes later I came in to say goodbye. She had another music site up.
And I am left with this thought: When was the last time she woke up early to spend time with me? She complains to me that there is no time in her week to ML with me, yet she makes time for the things that are important to her.
As the title suggests, I am just venting, not looking for answers. I know what the answers are:be confident, be strong, GAL, don't be a wuss, etc.
HD, Welcome to the OT club, where there's is no other person, but an " other thing" which provides the zeal in our spouses' eyes. My H has his work and projects, Honey's H, the church, and now yours has the ipod. My almost 13 yr old and all her friends clamor for the ipod, so I associate it with youthful spirit. Perhaps she is tapping into a fun, young, happy part of herself, once she gets the mechanics out of the way. My interest in sex coincided with my return to the music world, which I had abandoned in my mature, early mothering days. Maybe she is starting to jazz herself up in some way. Also, the ipod is something you can join in on and connect with her, as long as you refrain from adding songs on the lyrics thread we have going.
I wonder what her reaction would be to the Stone's "I'm so hot for her and she's so cold" lyrics, among others.
Hey Journey. Your post made me chuckle because, early on in the relationship, W would use "jazzed" as a euphemism for "horny." I have a whole playlist of songs for her about the way I feel in this relationship. I even made a mix-CD of them, but I can't find it right now. Some of the songs were: The Thrill is Gone (BB King) You'll Never Find (Lou Rawls) You've Lost That Lovin' Feeling (Righteous Brothers) Love Hurts (Nazareth) Tainted Love (Soft Cell) You don't treat me no good (Sonia Dada) Where Did Our Love Go (Diana Ross and the Supremes)
It's been a long time since I listened to that CD. It was during one of my "I'm pissed at her" phases.
I'm going to a friend's wedding in Tucson this weekend. On my own (she didn't really want to go, and I didn't really want her to go). It'll be great to see my old friends. My old high school girlfriend will be there...with her partner. Yep, she went over to the dark side. I put that in there to rile up Stubborn Dyke.
Lillie: She has fairly wide-ranging tastes. She is partial to women singers (surprise!) in the vein of Lucinda Williams, Sarah MacLachlan, Loreena McKennitt, Bonnie Raitt, Shawn Colvin, Janis Joplin, Alanis Morrisette, etc. She also like John Hiatt, David Byrne, Lyle Lovett, Elton John, Tom Petty, and lots of others. She doesn't like most C&W, and doesn't particularly like jazz. She doesn't like musicals.
I'm so out of it musically, I don't even recognize many of those names. I pretty much listen to NPR in the car and classical music (esp guitar) when I'm at my desk at home. An iPod would be TOTALLY wasted on me.
Janis Joplin of course I recognize-- I even saw her in person in 1968. My bf at the time thought I needed to broaden my musical horizons. It didn't work. He also gave me a Jimi Hendrix album that I still have, and that I have NEVER listened to all the way through.
I guess the question is, do YOU see any patterns? Are there recurring themes in the songs these people sing? I think different genres of music have different overall themes-- blues, metal, rap, country. Are these women "men are no damm good" singers? Or "who needs him?" or "someday my prince will come"?
Oh, there are a lot of "men are no damned good" songs. But then, there are a lot of very sexual lyrics, too. Lucinda Williams has a way of singing that, combined with some of her lyrics, just oozes sex.
But I don't really see any patterns beyond the, "it's got a good beat and it's easy to dance to" superficiality.
I think the only significant thing about the iPod fever is that she is being pretty obsessive about it. And, as I said earlier, I just thought it would be nice if she would make time for me once in awhile. She's shown that she can do that for something which is important to her.
I put that in there to rile up Stubborn Dyke. 
