Quote: It is/was ok that you were that close friend?
SO and I were very close friends prior to the deterioration of our R1, so this was not at all unusual. Actually we really did not discuss his R's with the OW's when we met because he was not comfortable with it and neither was I. During the deterioration of R1, OW2 was part of a larger social group he had begun hanging around with. Most of them were in their mid 20's and really had no clue what it meant to be in a life-time committed R, so when they saw he was struggling with our R, I suspected they encouraged him to end it and move on. Of course I have my suspicions that OW2 had her own motives (it was obvious she had a crush on him and I told him that prior to the bomb, but he refused to see it...men! )
Quote: There is a book called Genderspeak: Men, Women, and the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense
Funny you should mention this! SO is reading that right now, and it's in the hopper for me to read when he's done with it!
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