I’m fairly new to this website and I should go to a newcomer thread but I caught up in reading your thread among other’s threads. Another thread mentioned that your story was inspirational so I decided to read it. I do want to congratulate you on getting your SO back! I have a comment about one of your journal entries.
Quote: He had close FF's (one of which turned into OW2, but that's another story) in whom he confided and turned to when we were on our last legs of R1. He knew then, and I'm working to make it clear now (in a good way, of course) that this is unacceptable to me.
From reading your thread it very much so seemed that the role was reversed, in which you were the close FF that he confided in and had many conversations with while he was with both OW but it was more so with OW2. It is/was ok that you were that close friend?
Quote: To the best of my knowlege, even now, SO was never unfaithful to me, at least not in a PA sort of way. He had close FF's (one of which turned into OW2, but that's another story) in whom he confided and turned to when we were on our last legs of R1.
There is a book called Genderspeak: Men, Women, and the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense, it is an interesting book and it defines some terms. She's a close friend and She's an extremely close/best friend are a couple of terms that are mentioned in the book. The one refers to wanting to sleep with the friend and the other means that they already have slept with her. It would be rather ironic if your SO had a PA with OW2 during R1 and then you had a PA with SO while he was with OW2. At any rate, the book is worth reading and an interesting topic of discussion with your SO. Both my SO and I read it and discussed the book.
