I got that one in my email box at work. It got me really thinking about my sitch. From my perspective, we LBSes have to make some steps to show our vulnerability to our WASes in order to dip the domino over. If we continuously wait for the WAS to make the first move, then it will be a cold day in Hell! I am mulling over the possibility of doing something this weekend when I see my DW for the pet exchange. First, I will need to gauge where she is at emotionally considering that she's recently lost her father. That factors in how I will need to approach her.
Quote: But our growth also depends upon our ability to soften, loosen, and shed boundaries and defenses we no longer need.
I find it extremely interesting that you chose to bold this portion for I have visited and re-visited that line myself in my office. Out of the whole message's contents, I focused on this one over and over. Do I need to keep my defenses up just because I am afraid of getting my heart smashed again with rejection from DW? Is it necessary? Whose purpose does it serve if both of us continues to keep the wall up? No one...except the OW, unfortunately!
Quote: While it is essential to set and honor the protective barriers we have put in place, it is equally important that we soften and release them when the time comes. In doing so, we create the space for our next phase of growth.
This was, for me, the second most re-read part where I had to really contemplate what the next phase of growth meant to me in respect to the DBing efforts I am making toward my DW. I don't think I will ever be able to predict when the "time" comes, but I must trust in the Divine order to reveal it to me. That is all I can really do in the grand scheme of things.
