Quote: This signifies a good self-awareness on your part. It is sooo important to let small things like that slide and not fret too much over it.
Thanks for the strokes, gf! Much appreciated!
Quote: You do have a hand in this. How can you help SO ease into this social scene and reassure him that you are continuing to be his support system? What actions and steps can you take to effect SO's mood during the night?
You are absolutely right, gf. Thank you for pointing this out. I will give it some thought. The party is not until the 3rd, so I have some time to work on this. One of the things that SO has been adamant about is that we "have each other's back"; that we are in support of each other. While I know my friends would not say anything bad or insulting either to SO or to me, I know I can make it very clear that I love, cherish and support him with this particular group of friends.
Quote: It seems to me that SO is learning from reading The Lost Art of Listening and applying some of its underlying principles. I am wondering if SO has read the Venus-Mars book?
Actually, we haven't gotten past the introduction in The Lost Art yet. And we've read part of M/V together and apart; he's listened to the abridged version on tape and we discussed it quite a bit when we met for some of our Sunday brunches when we were apart. It's one that we want to read again together, but right now my DD25/DSIL23 have my copy. I gave it to them as a homework assignment when things were getting tense with them before their wedding.
SO is primarly getting a lot ideas from reading a book entitled Genderspeak. It's one that he wants me to read when he's done.
