It's good to have you back on board again! I sure have missed you around these parts.
Quote: Observation: We are not spending the holiday together. In the past, this is something I probably would have pouted and brooded over. So, a little pat on my back for getting over that.
This signifies a good self-awareness on your part. It is sooo important to let small things like that slide and not fret too much over it.
Quote: We are looking forward to a very good time again and seeing some new faces at the party. SO is planning on coming, but not until after he finishes a previous engagement. He's a little nervous about it as we have not done anything socially with most of my friends yet.
You do have a hand in this. How can you help SO ease into this social scene and reassure him that you are continuing to be his support system? What actions and steps can you take to effect SO's mood during the night?
Quote: We are still doing a very good job of managing the minor conflicts that pop up now and again. We are keeping them to a minimum, keeping them in perspective, allowing each other time alone to process, and then discussing them and apologizing to each other for our respective parts.
I notice that when people are piecing the M/R after the reconciliation has started that the communication channel has opened up in newer ways that are profound and seems to foster closer bonds. It seems to me that SO is learning from reading The Lost Art of Listening and applying some of its underlying principles. I am wondering if SO has read the Venus-Mars book?
I am now waiting for that sparkling rock to be slipped on your finger in not the too distant future!
(((Martha)))
