Quote: Is our ability to forgive related in direct proportion to level of self confidence/security?
Didn't read past this so others may have said the same thing. I think so. You are comfortable now with who you are (I mostly feel that way about myself) and what happened in the past happened to the other Martha. I think that's why you didn't care about the e-mail. It's like it happened to someone else.
I wanted to chime in about the blog and lie thing. I really have a problem with the lie concept and having a notion that from now on we are always going to be truthful. Why did you ask again after he told you he didn't? Why did you want to know badly enough to ask again (which in essence is accusing him of lying the first time)? And then why upset about the "lie"? It's not as though the actual lie was in some way harmful to you. On the contrary, I think it's better if you didn't know. He has a right to venting his thoughts. If not in a diary, then in his blog. If my XW asked if I still go to this site and write I would say "NO". Does that hurt her any? Nope. Would reading my posts hurt her? Yep. Complete and total honesty is overrated. You don't want to know if you look fat in these jeans...you want to hear of course not.
Wes
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
