Quote: When your H was really cold and he said no chance, did he actually believe there was and did think of you? Did he really believe there was no chance or did he not want to lead you on, etc?
I'm not entirely certain, Steve. One thing I do know. When SO dropped the bomb, he told me that it was NOT because he didn't love me.
I believe when he first dropped the bomb last September, he truly thought it was over, that we were too incompatible, regardless of how much we loved each other. He believed that a lot of changes would have to take place before things between us would ever be right enough for it to work, and he was very pessimistic that those changes would ever occur. He felt our problems were insurmountable, and it was best just to cut our losses and move on.
So, it's not so much that he thought there was no chance; he thought that it was beyond reason that we could move from point "A" to point "Q". Make sense?
After we started meeting again and just talking, as friends, even when he was seeing other women, he would indicated that he still cared for me, but that he didn't want to lead me on b/c he was committed to whomever he was seeing at the time. Famous last words, eh?
He broke up with OW1 because he didn't love her (and she turned kind of psycho on him afterwards, and he's still seeing repercussions of that). He broke up with OW2 b/c he didn't love her either.
One of the things I have told him, especially in the past 3 months, is that in spite of everything, I never doubted his feelings for me. I know he loves me, and has loved me, deeper than anyone previously. He now believes he could not love anyone as much as he loves me, and I think that, in part, is why he came back to me.
Famous last words, eh?
