Another day, another thread, another chance

[FiatLux]

'Shane! Come back Shane!' [famous Western movie quote, Jo]

Awww, come on Wes! And we were having such fun.

I hope this doesn't mean I have to room with Kev.

Gabe

[koshka]

Wes,

You gotta do what's best for you and your sitch at this moment. Go with your gut, but remember where we are.

Thanks for a lot of good insights from your experience.

K

[Aprilsm4]

I hope this doesn't mean I have to room with Kev

I think I get Kev

[Ness]

Hey stranger *hugs*

Well I guess I expected to find you still bashing about on here...Seems like I really DID GAL...

I miss you my friend - mail me sometime.

HappyNess =)

ps - H and I went for our first counselling session on Thursday, seems like it all paid off, but baby steps for now, no rushing into ANYTHING *hugs you*

[FiatLux]

Hey there Wes,

I wanted to followup my earlier lighter post by stating the obvious: this awful DBing rollercoaster isn't fun to be on longterm. I fully understand and accept a persons's decision to step off.

I've benefited so much from your knowledge, especially your reflections about similarities b/t your 1st D and my sitch, whether it is about beeming positivity, parenting stuff, or watching the WAS date or mingle with OP. I've taken to heart the deeper unconditional nature of DBing, and your humorous way of describing your frequent interactions w/ XW really helped me to see how to be simultaneously sensitive, strong, and playful.

Hope you're still thinking about Vegas, as I'd love to meet the man behind the posts and share a few cold ones with you. If that doesn't work for you, know you're always welome in FL.

Until then,

Gabe

[FiatLux]

Hello?

Wes?

La Espe?

Phoenix Deux?

Are you still lingering about? If so, wassup?

[greekgoddess]

I told him to linger about, Gabe, or, and I quote 'I would cry into my cornflakes'.

Wez, you're slacking, man, c'mon, I expect more posts than that! I'm nearly at my breakfast cereal cupboard already

Jo.

[dogma]

Otherwise, life goes on. It just might take 3 months or so to straighten out who wants to be part of that life that is going on

Enlighten us, perhaps?

write

We need more Brucian logic; I like that.

Brucian

[Just_Me]

Without getting into too many details...I told XW that I was going to give her space and time and that maybe 3-6 months without me is what she needs. Maybe she actually needs 30-50 years, I don't know, but I said I was going to give her this time without me; no movies, dinners, etc. I know, it really shouldn't matter; what difference could it make? I just wanted to verbalize that I wasn't responding in an angry manner or anything. Really the time is what I needed too.

[dogma]

Wes,

True.


I believe for a long time you both needed to step back and gain some perspective, but were afraid of the result.

I don't hear the fear anymore, but I hear sadness, resignation, loss of enthusiasm, as if you this were some final, futile guesture and you've concluded you will never see or interact with her again.

It is my belief there are feelings there, on both sides, but as you so aptly point out, there is nothing you can do for her or know what she is thinking or feeling.

Drop by and visit and write.

Bruce