I think the point of DBing for your M is to leave the door open to reconciliation, but do what you need for yourself. Cripes, STBXW has had three OMs in the last three years, even while we were in MC together. She picked up with the current OM immediately after the previous guy's wife showed up on our front porch to confront her. I still have thoughts of how, "if she'd only wake up," we could avoid next month's D. (FWIW, That ain't gonna happen. It would take a lot of T on her part to show me if she were ever truly sincere.)
Of course you can hope. There are a lot of good reasons to want your M restored. But all you can do is leave the door open. You can't drag her through it, and if you stand in the doorway watching where she goes, she couldn't get in if she wanted.
Sorry I've been AWOL on your thread so long.
Thanks,
K
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