Quote: I also think that if we don't pretend that being back together is a possibility then it will never happen. You make things happen in life by believing that they will come true. A positive attitude can take you far.
That sounds about right to me also. Believing it's only a matter of time has been my armor that allows me to handle interactions with her and any obstacles she's thrown in my way. I'm impatient, but this feeling that it's just a matter of drawing her back to me, has allowed me the little patience I do have. It helps when I tell myself..."Now give her time to digest that interaction."
Which brings me to my question. My MO up to this point has been to accept each interaction, make the most of it, spend as much time as she initiates together, and occasionally suggesting doing things together when we've had a drive spell. In between I give her a couple days of minimal interaction to perhaps a day and a half of silence. That's because it might be that long before she initiates something again. I'm trying to figure out if this strategy needs fine tuned. Do I initiate more or less? In light of my problem realistically facing the truth that we may be over forever, perhaps I should take some time to get used to this idea while still keeping some hope and optimism alive? Perhaps it's as Bruce says, wanting something to happen NOW, that makes me even ask. I suppose if in doubt do nothing (different).
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
