I used to think that I better face the fact that it is over. For a long time, I just couldn't accept this. I would hyperventilate at the thought of being divorced and not living my life with husband. I guess that is why they say that being in denial is used as a coping mechanism. I am still in denial really. I still believe everything will work out in the end. I know it is crazy, but I really don't care. It took me a long time to adjust to my new reality. Believing in something that may never come true is what has gotten me this far. Now I don't hyperventilate at the thought of ex and I never getting back together. I guess I am starting to accept that as a possibility.
Throughout my divorce, I would often talk to my mother-in-law. Once, I asked her if it was crazy for me to hold onto hope. She told me you can always have hope. You still need to move forward with your own life, but there is nothing wrong with holding onto hope.
I also think that if we don't pretend that being back together is a possibility then it will never happen. You make things happen in life by believing that they will come true. A positive attitude can take you far. That is why I think GAL is so important. It helps you prepare for a life with the ex again and also a life without them at the same time.
What do I know though? I am learning as I go along. This stuff is all so new to me even after doing it for almost two years now. I don't regret anything that I have learned along the way. I think things have played out exactly like they were suppossed to happen. I have no regrets.
