Quote: It's so much easier to look at the bigger picture, rather than just the dots of color, when it's not your own situation you're looking at.
True, absolutely true. Then make it not your situation; treat as if you were offering insight to one of us.
And while it is a pain, before you start to call her, ask yourself, why? What is the objective? Yes, a hell of way to have to act or prepare to talk or not talk to your XW, but maybe that audible pause will give you time to listen to your instincts rather than reacting out of fear.
Don't worry about giving HER time and space, give yourself time and space.
I know the unknown is fraught with doubt and fear, but continuing to act as you have is not in your best interest, even if you do not believe it.
