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Jo summed it up best, PATIENCE. It took Jo a long time (and going long periods without seeing Andy) to get where she is and she is still working.
You want something to happen NOW and as everyone has reiterated, it cannot, not without a tremendous amount of effort and patience and committment and unconditional love and ZERO expectations.
And you are angry with her, which is ironic, because your actions caused the doubt, mistrust, and confusion. You also are surprised she is living in a fantasy world (though this is standard WAW behavior).
You both also continue to play house and you are angry she does this without committment but let's be honest, despite your words, your actions show you are enjoying it. And we would all like to in that position, having our X hang out all the time but we would also get frustrated and confused and like some answers to unasked questions.
You are so caught up chasing your own tail you wonder why you are dizzy? And then complain to the in-laws, which of course backfires on you and you get angry when you snoop, though the inclination is strong in hopes of revealing some secret to the WA heart and then are angry when you discover she is not coveting the ground you walk on and is in fact carrying on some imaginary relationship which may well crash down on her, but you CANNOT make that happen, but can only, if you desire, be there, if and when she needs.
If none of this seems pausible or possible and really are sick of the whole make-believe relationship, then it is, as I have advocated time for some SERIOUS soul-searching and asking questions only you can answer.
