As I said to Gabriel once, if you snoop you can expect to get burned. It's playing with fire.
No matter how much you think you are the one for her, it is her that would have to see that if you got back together. You cannot make her see that if she doesn't want to. You cannot hurry the process.
I've been split up nearly 4 years and DB'ing for nearly 3 of those. I started DB'ing when DD4 was 4 months old, she is now 3 years old, and that's how long it took me to get where I am, and I am nowhere near done. It takes long-term dedication to fix a marriage and if you want her back, you have to be prepared to see it through.
She certainly won't have you back if you are snooping into her things. Remember, you have to model good behaviour to her and that isn't good.
On the plus side, she can make quick emotional connections over the internet because she's LONELY and there's a void in her life which is why she is so eager to fill it.
