I appreciate your analysis and comments on my confusing situation. Bruce, I didn't get the garage door opener or tell her to remove her stuff, although she did mention it and say she'd put her stuff in storage if it annoyed me. Obviously that discussion didn't go any where.
Couple interesting interactions yesterday that I'd like to note. 1) At lunch the kids (hers) had an extended convo about why we should be married again. I didn't look at her so I'm not sure what she thought of that. They have over the last several weeks commented fairly routinely about all living together again, us being married, etc.
2) She did ask about her parenting. She was really short with her kids, riding them alot, and basically being a little crabby. She asked if she was being over the top and "could you answer honestly if I was over the top?" I said I didn't think so. She was comfortable enough on the way home to indicate that they usually behaved worse in public, but better at home. I didn't say anything. Making comments about her kids, unless positive, is a dead end street. The convo turned to more positive things such as her daughters obvious artistic gifts (she is really quite an impressive artist)
Anyway, my song of the day is inspiration for me...basically saying give XW what she needs and be patient.
Quote: No rush though I need your touch I won't rush your heart Until you feel on solid ground Until your strength is found, girl
I'll fill those canyons in your soul Like a river lead you home And I'll walk a step behind In the shadows so you shine Just ask it will be done And I will prove my love Until you're sure that I'm "the one"
Things, I think, will advance if I can just be patient. No more physical stuff unless she initiates so she doesn't just think I want sex.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
