I went thru this myself a few months ago. I agree w/ you. Don't wait around. If she comes back, deal w/ it then. You must, as you now know, take care of you. Do your best to have fun. Believe me this is tough. Enjoy your bike. You should make new friends w/ that. Do what you feel is right for you, in the moment.
It has taken me 8 months to forgive my EW for what has happened. Now that I have, my anger is almost gone. Each day is getting better. I can honestly say that I don't hate her. This is a good feeling. I still love her and miss her, but I am making forward progress.
M: 35; Together 14 years - married 5.5 no children Bomb 22-JAN-2005; D a few months later First real relationship post D just ended ( 7 months ):(
Texas was HHHOT! It was fairly fun except for my cohort disasterising about the hurricane. It was 100+ degrees every day so MN feels like about 20 below. Ready for the frost?
well, if we were drinking in my back yard, I wouldn't have to get a sitter, but we'd have to censor just about everything we say and spell the rest. "M H is such an blank-@ss. Can you believe he said "XYZ" and now he wants me to $%^*&&**& all the time"
Just kidding. Haven't been able to lock in a sitter, so I may just have to stay home and be mom for the weekend.
Each experience in life has formed me, become part of me, made me stronger.