Not sure. All I can tell you is that begging and pleading do not work. What works is for her to see you as a confident and positive person, strong, independent.

I am really close to telling my X I can't do this anymore

Don't tell her, just do it. If you just tell her that you're going to do something, it will not have the impact that showing her will have.

I don't feel she is stringing me along as much as I am holding on to a dream.

It's easier to hold on to the memories, the dream, than it is to feel the pain of rejection.

I really want to vent

Vent here

Why can't she just wake up.

It's not on our schedule, it's not even on her schedule. She will just "wake up" one day down the road. She may or may not be able to come to you then. She may be too ashamed to return to you, you may have moved on. One thing I can tell you is that if you still have feelings for her, don't get emotionally involved with another person. If she does wake up, you may find yourself in the difficult position of having to choose.

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Last edited by Mellanie; 09/16/05 04:28 AM.
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