Quote: when I'm running low on love, I find myself running low on patience.
I can empathise with you, it is difficult to have PMA when things go differently than we expect.
Quote: Sometimes I just want someone - anyone - to give a damn about me when it feels like for years he insists it's all about him
Lots of people care about you Jo, but i know that still does not replace the Love you want to have with Andy.
Quote: I will just assume we are 'friends' and pretend he never said he loves me and just get on with stuff and see what happens then
I believe he does love you but not in the way it should be and not in a way you need to feel loved.
If Andy's OW/s comments are a relationship killer, keep telling Andy that OW can't be talked about while in your company. If he needs to talk about OW/s, tell him to talk about it with his life coach or the blokes he knows.
You might have to give him a taste of his own medicine and talk about some guy you had the hots/sexual or romantic interest in, and ask him how it feels when you talk about your former love interests or fanticies.
Timing, do it now or do it later. I know you want to donate eggs but will that whole process put you in over load and cause you to do or say something to Andy that will make it look like you are coming un glued/cranky/demanding. From a medical aspect, the process is more drastic than I have ever imagined. I am concerned about your health too.
I ask this because you say you don't have much energy left to invest in your R with Andy. I also hate seeing you to a point of giving up on something that at one time was so important to you.
I am also glad to hear you do things with your daughter/s and for yourself. I like you doing things that make you happy and able to continue with your life. They say happiness attracts our mates and sadness/strife drives our spouse away.
