Yesterday I told W I would probably have to work Christmas evening, but I could most likely come home Thursday or even Wednesday instead of Friday to make up for leaving early on Christmas Sunday.
W wasn't happy. Started by saying that the other person that does my job doesn't have kids, so he should work anyway (he has plans Christmas evening, hence my need to work). One thing led to another, and before I could end the phone conversation, W had decided she wasn't coming up for Thanksgiving anymore.
Today I call W and she starts talking about plans to come up for Thanksgiving and what food she should bring. It's as if yesterday's tirade never happened.
Last weekend we talked a little about how frustrated she had been - exampled in previous post. She said she needs someone to say that stuff to so she can get it off her chest and deal with it. That sometimes she does feel that way - but that she is learning to trust that I won't leave her and that she can say those things to me without being judged.
I have to remember to take care of myself, not to count on W to meet my needs, and to continue to identify and meet her needs so in the long run she will want to understand and meet my needs.
