Spent weekend at W's home. Arrived late Friday night - said hi and went to sleep.
Saturday ran some erands then took family shopping for a new dryer. Went to Sears and got some good information about washers and dryers. W decided she "needed" a new washing machine too.
I agreed we should get a front loader washing machine, but not right now. I explained we needed to wait until next year, since money to pay for washing machine would be coming out of IRA and we'd have to pay penalty plus tax.
W totally ignored me and kept going on about how she needed a new washing machine. I told W I was not feeling heard, that I was agreeing she needed a new washing machine, just not today.
W said something about me not caring about her (again ignoring that I was agreeing with her) so I told her I needed a break and walked away. W called me minutes later on the cell phone and said, "okay, you win, we'll just buy the dryer, it's obvious you don't care about me and my needs so I'll just agree with whatever you decide."
I told W I was not coming back until I had a chance to relax and calm down a little. W said she and the kids would be walking around the mall and that I could do whatever I wanted, she didn't care.
After a while, I found W and kids in a mall store, and after goofing around a little, went back to buy the dryer. We got almost completely checked out, and then found out the dryer we selected was not available until after Oct 1. We cancelled the whole transaction and went home.
After dropping kids off at home, we went to Lowes and bought a dryer.
Took rest of Saturday evening to hook dryer up, changing rear exhaust to right side exhaust. I expected the change to be much easier, so this put me into a foul mood.
Sunday. I'm still in a foul mood - little sleep and dryer still not hooked up. I tell W I'm not going to church and ask kids, in front of W, who wants to come live with me .
I do go to church with family, and day slowly gets better. After church I finish installing the dryer and it works better than the last two we've had.
We have a great trip to the YMCA pool in the afternoon, kids take three of their school / karate club friends with us.
Settle in Sunday night and cuddle a little in bed, and start watching a movie. I start gathering my stuff to pack so I'm ready to leave for my farm home at 3 a.m., and I can not find my watch.
I knew the watch was on the kitchen counter, and that the kids cleaned the counter top after dinner, so I look every place the kids would have put my watch, including the "junk drawer". I spend at least an hour looking, knowing the whole time I should be spending this time with W, which doubles my frustration. After I finally give up, W starts looking, and even digs through garbage can, while I try to go to sleep.
Monday morning while I'm driving home, I call S13 before he goes to school, and he immediately looks in junk drawer and finds watch. This is the same drawer I sorted through at least three times, and W looked in too, but neither of us found watch.
Conversation with W Monday are good and we are able to evaluate our actions and reactions to difficulties on Saturday while dryer shopping and Sunday evening looking for watch.
not a great weekend, but hopefully some interactions to learn from and build a better R and M with.
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