The fact is while both of you have your one foot out the door approach to this marriage nothing is really going to change. Neither of you are truely vested in the marriage you are just coping until you can get the hell out.
You cannot do anything to make your wife HD. That is up to her. What you can do is make her desire you by being desirable. Only you have the means of finding what it will to make her desire you. You are the only one who can sit down and talk to her and listen to what she says. I do not mean talk about sex I mean talk about your whole relationship. As long as you keep putting so much effort into the sexual side of your relationship and ignoring the other aspect of a relationship IMO you are gonna be right where you are now. Not getting any/enough.
I do want to ask you a question. I have read you quoting the bible I have read you say that you are staying for the kids. I have read you rattle on about what your marriage vows include in your opinion ect. Now with this new thing of we are both unhappy just waitting for the kids to be grown so we can go our seperate ways thing. I gotta ask. Why don't you just have a affair? You have already broken your marriage vows of to love and honor from this day forward. You and your wife are counting down to D day so this day forward is a broken vow. So what is one more? And really if your wife is in the same place as you why would she care she is just buying time also. I mean if it is only about the kids you can just be roomates and go about your sexual life else where.
In another post CeMar you state with all that you have tried. See the thing that keeps us on your back CeMar is this we have no idea what you have tried. We know you think you are trying. But no one knows to what extent. I have been reading your post for months. And what I know of your sitch and efforts can take up less then a paragraph.
I sorta like you CeMar what little I know about you. But since the only references you make about your relationship is your lack of nookie discontent. It is hard to form a very clear picture of you. I see you as a sex crazed maniac who anoys there wife and does nothing but want to have sex, whine if she does not and gropes and chases her around making her literally hate you. All the while screaming pity me. Come one open up some and prove me wronge. Show us who you really are so we can at least have empathy for your situation. If not insight to share.
