Thanks for the apology. I think what many of us women are reacting to though, besides the poor choice of words, is (and I'm pointing this out again) is your attitude.
If you write something like this on here, that obviously so many of us found offensive, what are you doing at home that's turning your W off? Your attitude cannot just be limited to here on the BB. YOU can make a decision to change YOUR behavior in your M, and given time, that can change your W's attitude/behavior towards you too.
As someone else mentioned, you both seem pretty well checked-out of this M. That in itself can account for your W's lack of SD. Speaking for me, if I feel bad vibes coming from my H (bad attitude, anger, resentment, sulking, entitlement, arrogance etc)....that is a sexual repellant, I will not want anything to do with him sexually.
You and your W are both existing in this M, you have more important things to worry about than a lack of sex right now...if you want your M to work, and want to be happy in it...you have to rebuild your R with your W. YOU have to do this, because YOU are the one looking for answers and someone has to start the shift in this R.
It takes time to make these changes too...it won't happen overnight, and may not happen quickly at all. I imagine both of you have a lot of anger/resentment built up. What about scheduling a ME Weekend like others have mentioned? Tell her you want to work on the M, that you want for both of you to make a fresh start and try to get things back on track.
CeMar, if you aren't willing to make the committment to work on the R (and stop just dwelling on the lack of sex, which is what it appears like on this BB) You won't get anywhere, you will stay unhappy in your M.
What I'm saying is this....you are unlikely to get what you keep telling us you want, until YOU commit to working on the R, not working on her or expecting her to do something. From what I've seen you haven't committed to working on your R yet. You keep looking for a quick fix, a quick answer...there isn't one. You keep looking for people to validate that LD/ND people just can't/won't do something. CeMar, I'm here to tell you....because my H is making changes...thing can change, but YOU have to be willing to do a lot more than you are doing now.
