Darn have not even read the rest of the post stopped with this one. I can imagine the chatter I have caused.

I think that the key word I used should have been underlined. Would state was the key words. As in would not openly admit. Referring to your wifes friends and how they may just not be openly admitting to a like for sex. A want to percieved as fitting in by there peers.
As example my very best friend for years if talking to people who did not like sex would state everything she did not like about sex. If amoungst people who were sexually risky would let out that her and her H played with toys and went to peep shows and strip clubs and various other things.

I was wondering if the HD women on here were common or if they were freaks of nature. How are men supposed to be happy in life when 95% of the possible mates out there have little interest in sex?

Freaks of nature! No they are not. That was a very rude way to state this. You owe the people on this board that have been trying to help you a apology for that comment.

Obviously my comment regaurding HD/LD only pertaining to the relationship you are in and the dynamics of it went right over your head.

Simple put outside of this board HD and LD do not exist. If a woman wants sex six times a week and a man wants it 5 she is HD and he is LD on this board. This dynamic can change in the next relationship. There is no fixed.
Most people have normal sex drives. But normal for you is not ness going to be normal for your wife your neighbor or your sister. There normal is different.

Example I am not LD compared to your wife,HD'S wife ZB's wife. I am LD compared to my H.
There are HD people who want sex twice a week three times a week.They would be LD to my H and maybe yourself. To me someone that wants sex 2-3 times a week does not have a exceedingly high drive it is normal. Someone who wants sex daily twice a day or more is high drive.

Do I talk to my wife about the relationship, rarely. I have tried explaining what my needs are and she is CLUELESS about HD

I asked if you talk to your wife about the whole relationship not just what happens or does not happen in the bedroom. Everyone has needs that cannot be met by sex even you Cemar. And since you state you are not getting that anyhow maybe you need to focus on fufilling some of those other needs.

When two people don't meet each others needs, it is impossible to be "In Love".

Yeah so which of her needs are you not meeting? there is a starting point try meeting them. With no expectation.

That is what I don't understand about the LD perspective on marriage, your just roomates

Again basing this on sex and LD/HD gives a jaded perception of this. Not all people married to someone who does not want sex as much as themselves are unhappy. Some have great relationships. Just because someone is married to someone with a lesser sex drive then them does not mean they are in a sex starved marriage. If you want sex 4 times a week and your mate once it 3 well you gonna be pissy and throw away your marriage over it? Not if the rest of your marriage is good. And guess what you are still not just room mates if you have sex 1 time a month and share your life hopes dreams and responsiblities.


Cemar there are to few of us on this board to get a correct perception as to how many woman are HD and how many are LD in a relationship in the big picture. I would guess that this dynamic flip flops and goes up and down during the change of peoples ages and sitch. Someone maybe HD today then LD tomorrow and again HD five years from now.
Who knows.

I know alot of woman who do not care for sex. I know alot of woman who like sex. As I stated earlier I only know 3 woman that I would classify as high drive. I also only know about 4 maybe 5 I would classify no drive or low drive. The rest are all normal drive. There drive fluctuates from time to time based on what is going on in there life. So your chances of finding someone who enjoys sex more then your wife are probably 50/50 but keeping them in a mental state of satisfaction long term so it does not lower there drive may be more challenging.

I do want to thank you for answering the questions.

Now I have one more. If your wife was to all of a sudden to have a higher SD would you still not see a future for your marriage after the kids are gone?