Quote: If you are right, that women over the age of 35 for the most part don't want sex, then life truely sucks.
The percentages don't matter; all that matters is that you find someone who is right for you. I'm 56 years old and most of my women friends are more interested in sex than their male partners. Good statistics A) are hard to come by, and b) don't apply to individuals.
It's like saying the unemployment rate is 20% or something. If you have a job, it doesn't matter. If you don't have a job, a high rate of unemployment doesn't mean you won't be able to find a job. Statistics only apply to groups, not individuals.
He also wrote
Quote: Is she happy with the relationship, no. She is not "IN LOVE" with me, and I am not "In LOVE" with her. When two people don't meet each others needs, it is impossible to be "In Love".
As for the future, we both have said that it is unlikely we will stay together after the kids leave home. What would be the point?
There is no point. You two should DEFINITELY plan to split when then kids are gone. In fact, you should plan to split before the kids are gone. There's a book about adult kids whose parents waited until they were out of the house to D, and the kids are really really bitter about it. They feel that their childhoods were a lie and their parents deliberately deceived them. If you split while they're still at home, they still have a chance to create some honest, happy memories. Here's the amazon link A Grief Out of Season: When Your Parents Divorce in Your Adult Years Here's a brief blurb on it
Quote: The stress of divorces among older couples on their adult children is distinctly different from and more severe than that experienced by younger offspring of divorcing parents, contend freelance writer Fintushel (whose parents were divorced when she was 22) and family therapist Hillard....Hillard and Fintushel offer strategies for overcoming feelings of betrayal, guilt and alienation, which in some cases are aggravated by a parent's remarriage. They also strongly recommend professional guidance to aid in healing and reweaving family bonds.
You're not necessarily doing the kids any favor by waiting until they're grown or older. There are a few reader reviews that support this premise. If you're gonna do it, it's better to do it now.
Cemar also wrote
Quote: That is what I don't understand about the LD perspective on marriage, your just roomates and how would that be considered a successful marriage.
I also do not understand this and have yet to hear a satisfactory explanation of this POV.
