All woman have a problem with aging to a degree even those who are doing so gracefully. It is not all based on vanity. My grams had a problem with it because she was afraid of death and aging leads you closer down that path. You easily pointed out some things that have changed about your wife. Odd I have the same things going on. And I do not like the sagging skin on the underarms. And it bothers me more then a wrinkle or gray hair.
I worked with about 400 woman in my last job we talked about sex alot. 95% of the woman I talked to over 30-35 would state that they did not like sex if they were in a long term relationship. Oddly those that were not in a long term relationship talked sex starve wanna jump anyones bones. Of all the friends I have had in my adult life I only can think of 3 that had high drives. One does ecstacy regularly. One was not married and had not had sex in 7 years so when she finally hooked up was rampant and ready to go when ever. And the other is so desperate to have a man she thinks sex is the answer. So though there are HD woman on this board I do not think there is enough of us on this board to get a clear indication of what would be considered normal vs abnormal in a womans sex drive.
And also CeMar it is easy to be labled HD if your sex drive is somewhat higher then your spouses. If you want sex once a month and your spouse wants it once a year you are the HD and they are the LD in a relationship. But in truth neither of you have a high drive. In your next relationship you may still want sex once a month and your partner want it twice a month now you have become the LD instead of the HD. So again the lables are not a basis of anything more then saying who wants it more often in our relationship as we post on this board it is not a true medical diagnosis of someones sexual state.
The decline in your wifes sexual desire may be based on a lot of things. Medical,self image, dissatisfaction in the relationship/life just to name a few. Or a combination of more then one.
And since none of us here can draw you out to really say the state of your marriage as a whole. None of us here will ever be able to give you any type of encouragement or advice as to what may help your sitch. We are just making stabs in the dark.
Here are a few easy questions Cemar
1. Do you and your wife talk about your relationship? 2. Have you ever asked your wife if she is happy as a whole within your relationship? 3. Do you and your wife talk about the future. What you plan to do once the kids are grown and gone. IE places you would like to go together, Where you want to live, What kind of house you would like to retire to.
Simple questions. If you do not have any answers for them maybe it is time to get your mind out of the bedroom and into the relationship. And get to know your wife better show some interest in her. You never know where that will lead.
